10 Symptoms of Caregiver Stress

  1. Denial about the disease and its effect on the person who’s been diagnosed 

    I know Mom is going to get better.

  2. Anger at the person with Alzheimer’s or others, anger that no cure exists or anger that people don’t understand what’s going on

    If he asks me that question one more time I’ll scream!

  3. Social withdrawal from friends and activities that once brought pleasure

    I don’t care about getting together with the neighbors anymore.

  4. Anxiety about facing another day and what the future holds

    What happens when he needs more care than I can provide?

  5. Depression that begins to break your spirit and affects your ability to cope

    I don’t care anymore.

  6. Exhaustion that makes it nearly impossible to complete necessary daily tasks

    I’m too tired for this.

  7. Sleeplessness caused by a never-ending list of concerns

    What if she wanders out of the house or falls and hurts herself?

  8. Irritability that leads to moodiness and triggers negative responses and actions

    Leave me alone!

  9. Lack of concentration that makes it difficult to perform familiar tasks

    I was so busy, I forgot we had an appointment.

  10. Health problems that begin to take their toll, both mentally and physically

    I can’t remember the last time I felt good.

How to manage stress: 10 ways to be a healthier caregiver

Are you so overwhelmed by taking care of someone else that you have neglected your own physical, mental and emotional well-being?  If you find yourself without the time to take care of your own needs, you may be putting yourself and your health at risk.

  1. Understand what’s going on as early as possible  

    Symptoms of Alzheimer’s may appear gradually.  It can be easy to explain away changing or unusual behavior when a loved one seems physically healthy. Instead, consult a doctor when you see changes in memory, mood or behavior.  Don’t delay; some symptoms are treatable.

  2. Know what community resources are available

    Contact your local Alzheimer’s Association office. The staff can help you find Alzheimer care resources in your community. Adult day programs, in-home assistance, visiting nurses and meal delivery are just some of the services that can help you manage daily tasks.

  3. Become an educated caregiver

    As the disease progresses, new caregiving skills may be necessary. The Alzheimer’s Association offers programs to help you better understand and cope with the behaviors and personality changes that often accompany Alzheimer’s.

  4. Get help

    Trying to do everything by yourself will leave you exhausted. Seek the support of family, friends and community resources. Tell others exactly what they can do to help. The Alzheimer’s Association 24/7 Helpline, online message boards and local support groups are good sources of comfort and reassurance. If stress becomes overwhelming, seek professional help.

  5. Take care of yourself

    Watch your diet, exercise and get plenty of rest. Making sure that you stay healthy will help you be a better caregiver.

  6. Manage your level of stress

    Stress can cause physical problems (blurred vision, stomach irritation, high blood pressure) and changes in behavior (irritability, lack of concentration, change in appetite). Note your symptoms. Use relaxation techniques that work for you, and talk to your doctor.

  7. Accept changes as they occur

    People with Alzheimer’s change and so do their needs. They may require care beyond what you can provide on your own. Becoming aware of community resources – from home care services to residential care – should make the transition easier. So will the support and assistance of those around you.

  8. Make legal and financial plans

    Plan ahead. Consult a professional to discuss legal and financial issues including advance directives, wills, estate planning, housing issues and long- term care planning. Involve the person with Alzheimer’s and family members whenever possible.

  9. Give yourself credit, not guilt

    Know that the care you provide does make a difference and you are doing the best you can. You may feel guilty because you can’t do more, but individual care needs change as Alzheimer’s progresses. You can’t promise how care will be delivered, but you can make sure that the person with Alzheimer’s is well cared for and safe.

  10. Visit your doctor regularly

    Take time to get regular checkups, and be aware of what your body is telling you. Pay attention to any exhaustion, stress, sleeplessness or changes in appetite or behavior. Ignoring symptoms can cause your physical and mental health to decline.